Three years ago today…

So I disappeared from the interwebs for a while. Have a post about that coming but this is way more important.

Fifteen years ago (wow I feel old now), I shared an apartment with three other college students. We drew straws to see who would share bedrooms (four girls in a two bedroom apartment). Jes got stuck with me, and that was the beginning of a beautiful friendship. We have only lived in the same city for four months-that one semester fifteen years ago. We have lived 120 or so miles apart the other 14 1/2 years. We drifted apart for a few years-life just got busy in our separate cities. Eventually our lives became very similar. Staying at home with kids. Awesome husbands who worked long hours. Miserable pregnancies. Trying to walk out our faith as woman, wife, mother, Christ follower. At some point we started talking on the phone daily. Or almost daily. Sometimes for an hour or more at a time. Most of the time we wouldn’t even be talking to each other, but rather mothering our kids with the reassurance of someone whose butt we didn’t need to wipe being present also. (it’s the little things, people!) She is my people.

Jes, Jim and their kiddos

Jes and her husband Jim are amazing people. I’ve known them so long and am just so used to the awesome that is them, that sometimes I forget that not everyone is like them. I know, I’m spoiled! Jes and Jim managed to have five kids in the same time we had three. They win that contest! (wait, it’s not a contest?!?) Almost four years ago they had some serious drama. They sold their home and the closing agent stole the money instead of sending it to their mortgage company. Surprise! You’re in default on a mortgage you thought was paid off! All of this happened during the holiday season. Not fun. Kind of a little bit of stress. Through it all they kept trusting God and clinging to hope. During this time Jim started having headaches. Figured it was stress related-ya think?!? Finally things got less stressful; the house was sold and they moved to a bigger, better, nicer neighborhood. Yay fun! Now life is normal! Except the headaches stayed. Jim went to the doctor- could be a dozen benign reasons for the headaches, but standard protocol is to have an MRI. No problem, just a detail! Waste of a good Saturday!

That MRI was three years ago today. It showed that yes, Jim did have a brain (phew!) but it also revealed a walnut sized tumor in his brain.

Follower of Christ, husband to one, father to five, host to one brain tumor.

I vividly remember getting Jes’ text as I sat in the Wal-Mart parking lot. “They found something.”

Somehow I made it home.

“They’re operating tomorrow.”

Noel and I went to the hospital to pray and love and support.

Can I just say something here?

Cancer sucks. I hate cancer. I’d like to punch it in the face or stab it in the gut and watch it die a slow horrible death.

One year of chemo. Radiation of the entire brain and entire spine. Medulloblastoma is not a cancer that jokes around. It wants you dead.

Even in the darkest of dark though, God’s love burns bright. Jes and Jim have trusted God with their lives, their children, their future. It’s not all smiles all the time, but at the foundation of it all is trust and faith. The belief that God has a plan. That what the enemy meant for bad, God will turn to good.

I could list so many challenges they’ve faced in the last three years it would make you want to cry, but I could list twice as many gifts and blessings that have come about from it too. Not the least of which is this guy:

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Jim with baby Silas

He is nothing short of a miracle baby. Now they have six and we have four. They win by a landslide!

The point of all this is to ask for your prayers for this amazing family. If you want more info they have a caringbridge site:

Jim still gets scans every few months to make sure the monster is kept away, so this is a long term battle.

I just want to honor this amazing couple and their beautiful family on this weird anniversary. A day where the life they thought they’d have died, but also the day a new life with new hope was born.


“If God is for us, who can be against us?” Romans 8:31

“Have I not commanded you be strong and courageous, do not be terrified, do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” ¬†Joshua 1:9

PS: I forgot to add that Jim had scans today to make sure the cancer isn’t back. Please pray for clean scans!



  1. says

    Wow! Once again I didn’t get through your post without crying (I’m seeing a pattern here)! Praying for this family and that all the scans come back completely clean!!

  2. Carol Hexum says

    Praying always for clean scans. Lindsey I love to read what you write. I laugh and cry. You are an amzing woman, wife and mother. God bless you.

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